The stupid little things that hurt..

So, recently I found the email addresses of a bunch of my friends from the late eighties and early ninties, and emailed a bunch of them. Two of them replied to my first ‘ping’ style email, but attempts to build a further conversation were unsuccessful.

Now I can’t decide what to do… do I email them back and try to get a conversation started? Do I just accept that they’re not interested in being friends, either because they remember me as annoying (I probably am) or because they don’t remember me at all, or because they’re just busy and don’t really have time for emailed corrispondences..

I don’t know. One of these people was fantastically important in my life at one point (even though I was never as far as I know important in hers) and it kind of hurts that they wouldn’t even bother to trade a few mails with me. Okay, so it really hurts. But I know I’m being too sensitive, and that bothers me too..

3 Responses to “The stupid little things that hurt..”

  1. randomdreams Says:

    I’ve had the same experience of late. It hurts but maybe it means that the distance was the right thing to have happen. Phoo.

  2. cori_chronicles Says:

    Give it another shot, and then if nothing happens, let it go. However, be really open to whatever happens. Have no expectations. Just write from your heart. Tell the person that you really enjoyed them being in your life before, and see what happens!

  3. goamaki Says:

    I think you have to really put yourself in their position. There they were, living their lives (which I’m guessing was/is far removed from the 80s and 90s), and they get an email from their past. For some, it may have actually brought up some memories perhaps they wanted to forget. Or maybe they’re not ready to be emotionally involved. Or maybe they appreciated the “hello”, but thought it was too far back to start anything new. Heck, they might be going through something you’re going through, and aren’t ready to talk.
    Seriously…you may be hurt, but you can’t just email people out of the blue and not expect different reactions, if any at all.
    It’s okay to be sensitive; but they might be sensitive as well.
    You can’t control how they will react or feel.
    Be sensitive to that.

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